Hmmm… Well, well I might as well jump straight into this matter. But be aware that kids should be at least 14 years of age before reading this because this information is sorta sensitive. I’ve been saying something earlier about myself, but this is gone because my blog got shut down. However, I’ve gotten the texts back and I will repost it, but right now I’m still in 2009. I wrote this stuff last in 2012, so there’s still a few thousand pages to go through.
My writing has been quite anti-sexual in its nature almost throughout. I did this on purpose because I don’t want to postulate in any way what’s right or wrong. However, I am a sexual being with needs and desires, just as everybody else. And, yes, I think about sex and I have some theories about the topic. Some of these theories are unpleasant both to think of and to discuss. In particular with children, but if we can’t educate them – who will, right?
This is about heritage and environment. I have reason to believe that under normal circumstances girls develop their sexuality from their father figure and boys from their mother. As for me, my father never took those “pollinating” talks, but I had my mum in politics and as a freelance writer, which means she used to be home when I came from school. We spent almost every day after I had walked the dog talking about social issues. I also had this tendency to read girls magazines and books about how to debut safely, menstruation, hygiene etc. I can safely say that my own sexuality was created mainly by the opposite sex.
But before I could read and take part in girl’s talk I had no other arena than the guys. We were a handful boys who experimented with one another from age 4-8 or 10. We weren’t romantically involved like kissing for instance, but we sorta figured out how to use the penis in relation to all bodily cavities. We all understood that girls would be the final target and so it turned after a while. After we started seeing girls this way we still enjoyed each other’s company while watching porn and masturbating until we were some 15-16 years old. Almost overnight this turned into something private. We bragged to one another about having this or that chick, but as we discovered they got hurt from this, we started to care about how they felt.
What I’m saying here is that playing safe sexual/social games with one another at an early age is crucial for your sexual development. This is why I refer to this activity as my sexual Achilles-heel. The thing with the guys had fairly little to do with homosexuality and to my knowledge none of the guys became gay or engaged in homosexual activities after 10 years of age.
Ok – now the parental link. I said my mother was important when it came to understanding female emotions as well as for how to cope with a girl. She made me aware that porn is not real, sex with a girl means emotional commitment and emotional commitment means that you need to get to know the girl and show interest in her mind. From there you show respect through your personal hygiene and in the way you touch her body. These things were not taught to me like ABC123, but rather through years of talking about and around these topics and in practical terms from I was a little boy standing in the bathroom needing guidance of what to do and why. “You need to pay extra attention to this and that part, because no girls like smelly boys” etc, etc. “Make sure you wash hands before touching anyone’s ding ding” and so on and so forth. Combined with practical experience and a genuine interest for female puberty I was set to go safe. I had my first experience when I was 8, and yes, it was kind of scary or intimidating. I had seen pictures of fully-grown women, so it seemed kinda weird. Anyway – I didn’t succeed in terms of having an orgasm inside of her until I was 12. From there I got more or less obsessed. You see – I didn’t figure that I could help myself to have an orgasm until a bit later. At first I thought I needed a vagina to complete my task, he he J. This is kinda funny now, don’t you think? So – what I’m saying here is that there’s no need to panic if you catch your kid having sex before he or she is able to reproduce. The key issue is to stay away from this part mostly, but make sure nothing happens with force and that the kids become aware of the importance when it comes to intimate hygiene.
Then girls… You know if a girl grows up with an abusive father figure (not necessarily sexually abusive), she tends to find this kind of men when grown. This goes for boys too. My mother’s father was mentally abusive towards the entire family when mum grew up. Mum was nice to me, but I have this tendency of picking girls with abusive dads. From this I have the following theory: We shape our sexuality from the parent with the opposite sex. Furthermore I believe that sexual behavior is to a greater extent genetically inheritable with men than with women. I think men are created in a specific way and if they’re lucky they get guidance from mum in addition to having a stable father as a role model. Girls seem to be born blank and they really don’t have an ego either from nature’s side. These features develop from being accompanied by unhealthy men. My point here being that we men teach girls because sexual behavior follows with the Y-chromosome. We are programmed to take the lead in such matters and girls just follow or go along for the most.
As for the women – they are born blank and taught through environment what is what and which is which. With so many abusive and clueless men around, they keep a significant part of themselves among the same sex. This is why we communicate poorly (Mars/Venus-issue) and also why I believe female homosexuality differs greatly from male homosexuality. Women simply seek female company because no man can fill the shoes right. I’m pretty confident in myself sexually and I never get jealous of other men, but I easily get jealous of other girls of this exact reason. I consider other girls a greater threat to my relationship than any other man. So – I think gay men are born gay and that girls become gay through choice/try/error. What I’m saying here is that more or less all girls are bisexual by nature. Here’s where sexual abuse comes in.
Anal sex was invented most probably before we became today’s human beings for two reasons: you don’t get pregnant and if you’re abusing your own child nobody will notice because she stays a virgin. However – the father/daughter relationship is meant to be just that. The most obvious reason would be inbreeding, but sexuality will suffer greatly from having your dad as sex-partner as well. I think we can safely conclude that there is a link between being male and being homosexual and pedophile.
We have some examples from the old Greek philosophers. They had a wife and numerous young male lovers too. This behavior has been in our genes since long before we came to be, so it’s nobody’s fault but evolution itself. For the homosexual man: THERE’S NO NEED TO PANIC FROM THIS. You are born like you are and I’m not putting an automatic link between homosexuality and pedophilia. I am saying that if you cross a red and a white rose you get 1 red, 1 white and 2 pink roses. If you take into consideration that pedophiles have no empathy it is fair to classify these as psychopaths as well. We know that 1/40 is born psychopathic and we know that 1/10 is gay. According to my theory, 1 out of 4 homosexual men is therefore dangerous to their environment. The “pink roses” can be perfectly harmless, but they are susceptible to become damaged from their own genetic father. If you’re pink and have an abusive father, which is pedophile (most pedophiles have no preference as to gender – they take everything), you’re also likely to become a product of your environment.
I have nothing against homosexuals. Some of my most wonderful male friends are and I wish them no harm. As for my own preferences I don’t do Kids, Men, Elders, Animals, Feces or Violence. Peeing at one another or having anal sex are not really my things either, but I could do just about anything for the one I love. However – I think certain things are meant to stay private. If I was to do something in the “grey-zone” I think it would be wrong to promote it like get it on tape and distribute it. I think certain specialties can be actively chosen away in order to prevent children from being exposed to unhealthy sex. I really did not want to tell you these things, but apparently there’s nobody else around that everybody trust. It is a fact that homosexuality creates friction and disturbance, but it is also a natural part of being a human. The question here is how to cope in a responsible way for the future? I believe if we manage to purify our behavior, we might be able to export our divine sexuality elsewhere…
Lars
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